Icks of a Bratty Hotwife x Findomme

Editor’s note: I may be a free-use hotwife, but due to the current state of things, the $HoleTax must be paid first to cover the inconvenience of dealing with those who still don’t get it.

People say they want to serve and worship, but most of you are fumbling with the basics. These are the icks that can kill the fantasy before it even starts.

1. Thinking Chivalry Is a Dead Language

I love it when men brag about how to treat a woman instead of competing to see who can care the least. We let the wrong ones lead; caring for your muse is nothing to be ashamed of or shy about. 

Chivalry shouldn’t be niche, but standard. Just like flowers open under sunlight, I open up for those who make it effortless. You don’t have to spend a fortune, but you do have to put in effort. Attention and intention are free. Use both.

2. Ignoring What She Actually Says She Wants

Half of y’all would save yourselves so much time if you just read the damn bio. Most people in the lifestyle are clear about what they’re open to.

If I say “tribute first, DM fee applies, or use the right link,” that’s not a suggestion. It is the map. Don’t assume you know me because you scrolled my feed or heard a rumor. Ask questions that make sense for connection, not interrogation.

3. Asking Questions That Aren’t Yours to Ask

Let’s be clear: curiosity isn’t consent. You don’t get to dissect my relationship or the dynamics between me and Cubby like it’s a group project.

If the question doesn’t directly help you figure out how to approach or play, it’s not your business.Whether I’m a hotwife, a domme, or a walking contradiction that confuses you to evaluate if you want to engage, not why it works.

4. Wallet Weakness Disguised as Ego

Money isn’t the only way to show devotion, but it’s definitely a universal language, and I’m fluent.

You can always tell who gives sincerely and who’s fighting their own resentment. The ones who pay or tribute freely, who don’t flinch, always get the best of me. Not because I’m bought, but because sincerity turns me on almost as much as the amount.

5. Performance Without Presence

Nothing dries me up faster than a sub who thinks the whole point is to act like a porn extra.

Don’t show up just for the money shot, show up for me.

Foreplay, aftercare, and the quiet stuff that keeps everything soft and electric; that’s what makes it worth repeating.

I prep for every session like it’s a ritual: stretching, hydrating, setting my mind, and sometimes changing my diet for that day. You should come ready to serve, spoil, and actually experience me, not just perform at me.

6. Confusing Humiliation With Disrespect

Degradation is art. It’s choreography. It still needs rhythm and consent. The difference between a Dom and a dickhead is knowing the line. And you’ll never find it if you can’t listen first.

7. Confusing Humiliation With Disrespect

Just because Cubby let you watch, join, or even play once doesn’t mean you’re on retainer. Access is earned and re-earned. Every time.

If you forget that, I forget you.

This list isn’t exhaustive; it’s just what’s been killing my buzz lately. I may add more once I’ve had a few new drains or my patience resets.

Until then, take it as a public service announcement: desire is a privilege, not a right.